Some of the many firsts for Ryan that I’ve documented along the wa…
2015 Ryans 1st dog walk
We were visiting Julia and Rob in Oswego for KITT’S appearance at wizard world august 2015. Ryan really enjoyed their dog Rex, and him and I took Rex for a walk today. It was the first time Ryan ever walked a dog and he loved it…even though he only watched as I held the leash
2016 First day at a friends house alone
May 22 2016 – today was the first day you stayed at a friend’s house by yourself for an hour. First we already had an amazing weekend. We did the first firepit with Amber and Brian across the street, spent the day at Knoebels with Nana where you did a ton of rides (many for the first time), and you played with Emma at the trampoline place and then later that same day with John.
But you also went to Camillo’s house (new neighbor on the corner). They invited us over and you said you wanted us there (specifically you said you don’t like going anywhere without us). When we got there and you started playing a bit, his mom asked Ania if we’d like to leave him there for a bit. So we asked you if that was alright, and you said “yeah – why wouldn’t it be?”)
So we left you there for a little over an hour to play with him and his cousin. It sounded like you had fun based on what you told us (even though his older cousin wasn’t very nice apparently). But you should know it was hard for us as parents to let you go. We’ve always been with you anywhere we go. But we also know that at some point we have to let you go and give you that independence. And we are proud that you made such good decisions without us.
So today marks another milestone in your journey. The first day we ever left you alone at a friend’s house. Way to go Ryan!
2015 1st time a friend left him
Today (Dec 29th 2015) was a tough day for Ryan. He was playing outside with our neighbor John. Ania went to check on them after a while and Ryan was by himself. She came down to see what was going on and Ryan asked to go inside and close the door.
It turns out John walked back to his house on his own and did not have any intentions on returning. He didn’t tell Ryan where he was going. He just left without saying goodbye or coming back.
This severely disappointed Ryan. He said nothing happened (they didn’t argue or anything) and couldn’t understand why a friend would just leave him. So we tried to help him understand that John doesn’t have a family like we do. He does his own things and never has to answer to anyone or tell people where he’s going. So him leaving wasn’t done intentionally to hurt Ryan, but instead was just what he’s used to doing in general.
It helped Ryan realize that sometimes there are good and bad moments in friendships. He said he doesn’t want to see John for a while, so we’ll see where it goes. He didn’t want me to write about this in his Footprint, but I chose to do it anyway because it’s represents a milestone in his life he has never experienced before.
I know he’ll be ok, and we will do everything we can to help him get through these new experiences together as a family.
2017 First time left at friends house
Nov 4, 2017 – 2 days after turning double-digits. You went to a friend’s birthday party (Nicolo) at his house. There wasn’t many people, and you were the first friend to arrive. Mommy and I considered the option of leaving you there to play, and asked you if you would be OK. You said as long as you have a way of reaching us you’d be good. And since you were wearing your Gizmo watch phone, you were OK. We left, and we texted throughout the afternoon to make sure things were going ok. Seemed like you enjoyed yourself.
Today will go down in history as the first party you went to without mommy and daddy staying there by your side. It was sad for us, because you’re growing up. But becoming a responsible adult is what you’re rapidly turning into. We are so proud of you Ryan. Love you